A matter of choice – BPD and self-worth

I am posting another “Reblog” from the same blog, “Life in a Bind – BPD and Me”, as this post really gets at one of the fundamental aspects of therapy: self-acceptance. Self-acceptance is not simple, as it involves accepting the part or parts of yourself that refuse to accept you. In other words, in order to learn to love yourself, you may need to love the parts of you that hate you and berate you, that try to convince you that you are worthless…

Life in a Bind - BPD and me

People come to therapy with a variety of issues, and with their own individual goals. But whatever the particular difficulty, at the heart of therapy there are often twin tasks: to reveal the ways in which we really think about ourselves; and to ‘make up for’ what has been missing. Or, to put it in even more general terms, the twin tasks of therapy are concerned with content (or process) and with relationship – and both are important.

But even when it comes to content, and uncovering the nature of our thoughts and assumptions about the person we thought we knew best – that too, at heart, is about relationship. But in this case, it is the relationship we have with ourselves, that is being explored.

In my experience, and on the basis of reading numerous blogs by others with BPD, there is nothing more likely to elicit feelings of…

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“One of these days, I’m gonna get organiz-ized…”

Here is the post I found from 2014 that relates semi relevantly to my previous post about getting organizized…

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So said Robert DeNiro in Taxi Driver, during an excruciating attempt to sustain an onscreen conversation. But discomfort surrounding the word ‘organized’ isn’t limited to an awkward date with social activist Travis Bickle. In fact, it’s an example of a long-running misconception about British versus American English.

A common complaint of wannabe pedants is that the use of the suffix -ize is WRONG because IT IS AMERICAN. But that’s not strictly accurate. In fact, using ‘organize’ in British English is perfectly acceptable. The Oxford English Dictionary, for starters, lists the -ize form as the primary version, as do all major UK dictionaries.

robert_deniro_waiter Robert DeNiro’s waiter? Just out of shot.

While British and American English have been subject to vastly differing developmental factors, they’re still regional versions of the same language. So let’s clear things up – British English does indeed use -ise. But it also uses…

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