Violence: What if…

What if Americans could listen to each other and let go of judgments and the framework of “I’m right and you’re wrong.”?

Maybe if our conversations about violence were less violent, maybe if everyone has a voice and deserves to be listened to, people will express themselves more with their words and less with their fists and guns and bombs?

Being a Person is….

Getting too complicated. Yes indeed. I made my own photo collage for my Facebook profile.

It’s not the problem of Facebook to tell you what or how to make a profile photo. Learn something by looking stuff up.

The weird think about this photo collage I made is that in the background of my photo of myself is a framed drawing made by a boy who died from accidental gun killing him, so this is for that too.

I did not remember how the French flag was – the order of the colors. I’m not even sure if the stripes in the US flag start with red or white. Of course being an ignorant American I barely know any flags so the Ones for Kenya, Lebanon and Iraq were new to me.

I partly don’t know flags because I have a strange aversion to them so when I see flags, mostly American, I get a sort of disgusted reaction. It’s not about much besides I guess seeing a lot of blood all over every flag I see and wishing there were no nations and no blood shed over land and boundaries that separate us human beings…


Skipped last week’s post; some more questions about the stigma of mental illness…

I have been trying to post weekly so I was due to post on or around May 23, but obviously missed it!

I began a new topic, mental illness and stigma and society’s assumptions about mental illness, especially the common connecting violence and mental illness, which is disturbing to me, as I have treated and continue to treat so many people with various types of mental illness, including substance related issues, and there are so many people out there suffering from these issues who have never acted violently at all.

There is a lot of controversy right now about guns and what kinds of evaluations people should undergo before acquiring a gun. I am not pro guns in general, and my thoughts about this are that, if wonderful people who want to adopt a child have to undergo terrible stressful and traumatizing scrutiny to become parent(s), why should it be so much easier for any individual to just march into a store and acquire a gun? This is lopsided. Many people with mental illnesses are great parents.

In addition, there is the question, if you are diagnosed with a mental illness, does that mean you should be barred from owning a gun? Does it depend on the mental illness or severity of it? Who is to judge? Many people with “sociopathic” personalities are very good at “functioning” and passing as “normal”. Is it more likely that a person with sociopathic traits would be a danger if s/he owned a gun than someone with, say, a depressive disorder?

I don’t have the answers to these questions. However, I do think that if you want to own a gun, just like a prospective adoptive parent, you should undergo having visits from social workers to your house and should experience at least the same amount of scrutiny as these individuals who want a child so desperately.

And what if you have a mental illness and want to adopt a child? I’m not sure how hard that is, but just look at this “yahoo” website post and read the comments below it. I’m citing it to show that random people on the internet think very quick judgments about mental illness and fitness for parenting. There are a variety of comments in the comments section, a few supportive and trying to give the individual asking some answers and support, and some very harsh judgmental comments. It is sad to see that because there are so many more people wanting to adopt than kids to adopt, the “background checks” may cause agencies to be prejudiced against people with mental illness adopting kids if they have such a range of “choices”…
Here is the link:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20120129172953AAV7qgj